{"id":2648,"date":"2013-05-20T23:58:03","date_gmt":"2013-05-20T23:58:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eou.edu\/student-affairs\/?page_id=2648"},"modified":"2022-02-04T23:17:52","modified_gmt":"2022-02-04T23:17:52","slug":"stalking","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.eou.edu\/student-affairs\/stalking\/","title":{"rendered":"Stalking"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What is stalking?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Stalking is a pattern of behaviors done by one person in order to alarm, frighten, control, pursue, or terrorize another person. Stalking is legally defined as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>repeated contact (2 or more times)<\/li><li>unwanted contact (offender knows it was unwanted)<\/li><li>contact that is \u201calarming\u201d to the person experiencing it<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Stalking can include any of the following behaviors:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>being followed<\/li><li>showing up at the same places as you<\/li><li>hang-up phone calls<\/li><li>emails, text messages, repeated Facebook messages, and other attempts to connect\/harass through social networking<\/li><li>leaving cards or notes<\/li><li>leaving \u201cpresents\u201d (like flowers) that you don\u2019t want or understand<\/li><li>vandalism; breaking into your home<\/li><li>physical\/sexual assault, homicide<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Who is vulnerable?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Everyone is vulnerable. It doesn\u2019t matter who you are or what you do. Anyone can be a victim of stalking. Stalkers choose victims that they think are \u201caccessible\u201d and \u201cvulnerable.\u201d They choose victims based on whether they can \u201cget away with it.\u201d Examples include a person who will not be believed, or someone who is unable to enforce clear boundaries. Stalking is a form of power over someone else\u2019s life and is an abusive behavior. The behavior of stalking is intended to control, frighten, and harm the victim. It is a crime!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Research has shown that women getting out of an abusive relationship and college students are particularly vulnerable for being a victim of stalking. 52% of victims of stalking are 18 to 29 years of age. According to a National College Women Victimization study, 22% of women may be stalked at any time during college\u2026this is not including male victims. In that same study, it was reported that, of those women, nearly 49% were stalked by a college acquaintance. The majority of the rest of the stalkers were reported as classmates or ex-boyfriends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Who is the \u201ctypical stalker?\u201d<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The stalker can be anyone. There is no significant difference in race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, age, sexual orientation or educational background. Although gender does not predict stalking behavior, it is reported that as high as 87% of stalkers are men. In general, the majority of victims personally knows or is acquainted with their stalker. This is true for the college population as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">What can you do?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you or someone you know is being stalked, there are some steps you can take. Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. The following steps may be taken to increase your safety:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>Know it is not your fault<\/strong>. Victims often blame themselves for a stalker\u2019s behavior. You didn\u2019t cause a stalker\u2019s behavior, you cannot control it, and rarely can you stop it yourself.<\/li><li><strong>Trust your instincts<\/strong>. If you feel unsafe or threatened, you probably are.<\/li><li><strong>Take threats seriously<\/strong>. Tell your family, friends, coworkers, roommates, etc. about the stalker. Give a description of the stalker to your landlord or work manager. Get support from the people around you in all contexts of your life.<\/li><li><strong>Know that stalking is not a form of romantic pursuit. <\/strong>It is not cute, funny, or intriguing. You are not being \u201cchased.\u201d It is stalking, and it is dangerous.<\/li><li><strong>End the relationship. <\/strong>If you are ending an abusive relationship, make it clear that it is over and be done. Do not worry about their feelings or \u201cletting him\/her down easily.\u201d<\/li><li><strong>Do not continue to communicate with the stalker<\/strong>.<\/li><li><strong>Develop a safety plan<\/strong>. Arrange for a safe place to stay, have people go with you when you leave your home, carry your cell phone at all times, etc.<\/li><li><strong>Document everything<\/strong>. Write down all the evidence of the stalking as you experience it. This includes emails, text messages, and phone calls, where you saw him\/her. Get witnesses to write down what they saw\/heard. Take pictures of vandalized property. Every documented incidence is crucial in developing a legal case for protection.<\/li><li><strong>Know your resources<\/strong>. Below are contact numbers and resources that will be helpful for a stalking victim.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><strong>If <em>you <\/em>ever feel that you are in immediate danger<\/strong>, <strong>CALL 911<\/strong>!<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Resources for victims of stalking:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-1 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">EOU Resources:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Student Health Center<\/strong><br><strong>Counseling Center<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419623524\">541-962-3524<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Director of Student Relations<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419623635\">541- 962-3635<\/a><a href=\"tel:5419623524\"><br><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Community Resources:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Shelter from the Storm Office<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419637226\">541-963-7226<\/a><br>24 hour hotline: <a href=\"tel:5419639261\">541-963-9261<\/a><br>*Will assist in stalking\/restraining&nbsp;orders at&nbsp;no cost!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Union County Victim Assistance<br>Office of District Attorney<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419631007\">541-963-1007<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>La Grande Police<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419631017\">541-963-1017<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Grande Ronde Hospital Emergency Room<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419631442\">541-963-1442<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Center for Human Development<\/strong><br>Phone: <a href=\"tel:5419628800\">541-962-8800<\/a><br><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\">\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">National Resources:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>The National Center for Victims of Crimes:<\/strong><br><a href=\"https:\/\/victimsofcrime.org\/stalking-resource-center\/\">Stalking Resource Center Website<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is stalking? 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